The good news: With a few simple tips from the bag of couples
therapy couple, you can bring new wind in your relationship.
Small changes
in behavior and changed perspectives - with great effect.
"We
barely talk to each other!"
► Problem: Leisure, parenting, socks lying around - inflammation for
quarrels is many couples even after several years of relationship not from. Loose
talk about everyday life or a loving exchange of feelings but take place less
and less.
► Approach: Couple therapists advise rituals in order to talk to each
other again. For example, cook together for a day or two a week and
discuss what you are doing, sizzling and chopping, what you found funny, what
made you excited. Important: Both have to speak and tell!
"When it comes to
money, it almost always crashes!"
► Problem: He irritates the Dispo, she wants to save for old age. In
many partnerships, different attitudes about money collide. Talks
about finances often culminate in heated debates and mutual accusations.
► Approach: Make a joint decision not to become personal at
the next money talk. Condemnations like "You're wasteful!" Or
"You're a miser!" Are taboo, you're seeking compromises. Even an
objective financial adviser can help.
"Everything is always
attached to me!"
► Problem: One throws the entire household, the other clears at most
from time to time the dishwasher. On closer examination, however, in many
cases, not lacking assistance, but lamenting lack of appreciation of the
"lazier" complained.
► Approach: The bed is freshly made, the favorite yoghurt is in the
fridge, no crumbs on the kitchen floor. Take a closer look at what your
partner does "on the side" every day and thank you. A hug, a
kiss - so easy, but so effective.
"The
sex fell asleep!"
► Problem: Both of you remember the initial passion only darkly. In
everyday life, the desire has remained on the track.
► Approach: Stabilize the emotional connection to your partner by
consciously turning to him. Listening to him talk about everyday life,
give him a bath when he or she is stressed out. More mindfulness in
everyday life can rekindle the desire for physical closeness.
"We
have no time for each other!"
► Problem: The job, the kids,
doing a bit of sports or watching TV - and the week is over again. Joint
ventures no longer take place because everyday life leaves no room for it.
► Approach: Taking relationship care as seriously as anything else. If
necessary, the joint cinema visit or the romantic dinner will be entered
in the calendar.
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