You want a partner, but
do not dare to talk to a stranger? You want to fall in love again after a
failed relationship and be happy and do not know how? With a little
initiative you can influence your new love destiny yourself.
At least that's not
enough: to write notes in your own home with the advantages of a new partner to
the universe, to hide them in flower pots or to burn them with a spiritual
ritual. Such writing exercises may help you understand what you really want. In
the end, however, only helps: to go out and be open.
End with unfulfilled wishes
The Austrian TV
journalist (ORF) and author Peter Stacher has met many successful people in his
profession and found: There are no higher powers that fulfill a wish. It
is the personal attitude that paves the way to happiness and success. In
"The universe is in you. End with unfulfilled wishes!
"(Ueberreuter Verlag, 176 pages 16,99 Euro), he shows how one can shape
his life according to his own ideas.
BILD reveals six tips
for more success in the search for partners by Peter Stacher:
1) The inner attitude counts
You do not want to be
active in the search for a partner, but want to be addressed and courted? That
is allright. What you should pay attention to: It is about the small,
unconscious and hardly controllable signals.
If you are scared and shy away from any contact, your eyes will
tend to go down. Her gestures are then restrained and her facial muscles
limp. Then you act absent-mindedly on your environment. This is
reflected, for example, in the lack of brilliance of your eyes.
► If you have
taught your subconscious how attractive you are and how much you are looking
forward to meeting new people. Then it will happen!
► Your
expression will change without you noticing. Your charisma will be
completely different. Your perception will adapt. Your behavior on
the street, your reactions to certain situations will change. You do not
have to pretend.
2) Control your destiny yourself
Open yourself! It's
about opening up in certain situations - especially if you've secretly been
working on such a situation for a long time.
Just let life run its
course without fear that you might run into a trap. Be grateful for little
things that bring joy and allow you to slowly step out
of your usual rut. You commit yourself to nothing and you
do not sign a marriage contract.
► Expect what makes your
life more enjoyable! You control how far you go!
) Make plans for your life
Do you want to change it and do you want a partner? Then make
room for it:
► Temporarily, by
making your tight single-appointment calendar flexible. Follow your
favorite activities but allow yourself to miss an appointment or activity and
be spontaneous.
► Spatially, by
not putting yourself in the spotlight, your private areas, your home, your gym,
whatever, be your personal retreat. Being a couple also means allowing the
other's style and giving way to things that are alien to one another at first.
► Mentally, by
putting off the fear that your life might be messed up again as it was in the
recent disappointment.
You only have to fear the limitations of partnership if you actually restrict yourself.
You only have to fear the limitations of partnership if you actually restrict yourself.
Nobody forces you to turn your life upside down. It is your
life and only yours alone! If you really do not want to change anything
and a partner is a block on your leg, then leave everything as it is. No
problem.
►But maybe you
just try it, sniff into a new life, be surprised.
4) Inner pictures lead to
the goal
If you are planning to
make a nice acquaintance that you may marry and start a family with, then tell
yourself that. Encourage your conviction to be
ready for a loving, romantic relationship.
ready for a loving, romantic relationship.
► Write down a
piece of paper that you for example put on your bedside table and say to
yourself daily, some sentences like:
✔
I have a great charisma and am an interesting conversation partner.
✔ It is easy for me to get in contact with interesting men / women.
✔ Every day I become more self-confident in dealing with my fellow human beings.
✔ I'm looking forward to meeting new people and approaching them openly.
✔ I am filled with the things that give me pleasure.
✔ I feel good in my skin and enjoy life.
✔ It is easy for me to get in contact with interesting men / women.
✔ Every day I become more self-confident in dealing with my fellow human beings.
✔ I'm looking forward to meeting new people and approaching them openly.
✔ I am filled with the things that give me pleasure.
✔ I feel good in my skin and enjoy life.
5)
Do not get discouraged!
It takes the famous first date for a relationship, but that's not
all. It also takes the second date, the third and so on. You know
that, right? And you know the anticipation. And then the date says an
hour before the meeting. For a plausible reason, flu virus, sudden urgent
business trip, Nanny has canceled, Wasserrohrbruch ... you can not believe it.
► To your
reassurance is said: If the reason for the cancellation was genuine and not
just an excuse, the second attempt for the first date is certainly just as
nice.
6) It always needs two
But the desire of ONLY one partner is not enough; even if you
visualize so many times: this person would sit with you on the sofa in front of
the TV, go with you through the park and kiss you passionately. A happy
partnership always includes TWO people.
► If the other
half does not want the relationship, the chemistry just is not right for her,
she has different ideas of the person she wants to spend her life with, or that
other half just has enough of relationships and finding herself ... then YOU
can wish yourself crazy. It will not work.
► Love has to
develop bilaterally, otherwise it has no chance. You need to see what that
means: does the potential partner have any other ideas about the relationship
with you or none at all? When you realize this, you draw the consequence. Running
after someone inappropriately harms you the most. It takes away your
dignity and the opportunity to orient your life according to the person who has
earned your love.
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